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Letting Go: The Art of Forgiveness
Having a hard time forgiving yourself or others? Delve into the psychological perspective of forgiveness and more!

Forgiveness is a powerful act that touches the very core of human relationships and emotions. It’s more than just saying “I forgive you”. At its heart, forgiveness is about releasing anger, resentment, or the need for revenge against someone who has caused you harm. The act of forgiving is deeply tied to our mental, emotional and even physical well-being. But why does forgiving heal, and what makes it such a transformative process? Let’s delve into the psychology of forgiveness and uncover its profound impact on our lives.
What is Forgiveness?
Forgiveness, from a psychological perspective, is the conscious decision to let go of negative emotions tied to a past hurt. It doesn’t mean condoning to harmful behaviour or forgetting the incident. Instead, it’s about choosing freedom from the emotional burden that comes with holding onto pain and resentment.
Renowned psychologist Dr. Robert Enright defines forgiving as a process of replacing negative emotions like anger and bitterness with positive ones such as compassion, understanding and empathy. It’s an intentional act that benefits the forgiver more than the person being forgiven.
Why is Forgiveness so Difficult?
Forgiveness can be challenging because it feels counterintuitive. When someone wrongs us, our natural response is often anger, self-protection or even retaliation. These emotions are deeply rooted in our evolutionary psychology as they served as survival mechanisms for our ancestors. Holding a grudge or remembering harm helped protect early humans from future threats.
However, in modern society, these instinctive responses can do more harm than good. Holding onto anger and resentment can create a psychological trap, keeping us stuck in the past and preventing emotional growth. The difficulty of forgiveness lies in overriding these instincts and choosing a more peaceful path.
The Psychological Benefits of Forgiveness
Reduce Stress
Holding into anger and resentment keeps the body in a state of stress. When you forgive, your stress levels decrease as the body stops releasing stress hormones like cortisol. Studies show that people who practice forgiveness experience lower blood pressure, improved heart health and reduced symptoms of depression.
Improves Mental Clarity
Unresolved anger can cloud judgement and create mental noise. Forgiveness clears the mind, making room for better decision-making, increased focus and creativity.
Enhances Emotional Resilience
Forgiveness helps us process emotions in a healthy way, building resilience to future emotional challenges. It teaches us how to cope with pain and harmful patterns.
Strengthens Relationships
While forgiveness is a deeply personal act, its ripple effects can heal and strengthen relationships. It creates space for reconciliation, trust and deeper emotional bonds.
Boosts Self-Esteem
Forgiving someone is an empowering act. It reminds us that we are not defined by the wrongs done to us and that we have the agency to move forward without carrying emotional baggage.
The Science Behind Forgiveness
Research in neuroscience and psychology provides fascinating insights into how forgiving impacts the brain. Studies show that holding a grudge activates the amygdala, the brain’s fear and anger center. This triggers the fight or flight response, keeping the body in a state of heightened stress.
Forgiveness on the other hand, activates the prefrontal cortex, the brain’s center for rational thinking and emotional regulation. This shift promotes feelings of calmness and clarity. Over time, practicing forgiveness can even rewire neural pathways, making it easier to let go of negative emotions in the future.
The Healing Journey: Steps to Forgiveness
Forgiveness is not an overnight process. It requires time, effort and introspection. Here are key steps to guide you on a path to forgiveness:
- Acknowledge the Hurt
The first step in forgiveness is to face the pain honestly. Suppressing or denying the hurt only prolongs the emotional wounds. Allow yourself to feel anger, sadness or betrayal. Recognising the harm done is a crucial part of healing.
- Understand the Offender’s Perspective
This doesn’t mean excusing their actions but rather trying to see the situation from their point of view. Were they acting out of their own pain, ignorance or fear? Empathy can help soften the intensity of negative emotions.
- Release the Need for Revenge
Holding onto the desire to “get even” only perpetuates a cycle of pain. Letting go of revenge doesn’t mean you are condoning the hurt, it means you are freeing yourself from its grip.
- Choose Compassion over Resentment
Compassion doesn’t mean forgetting, it means understanding that we are all flawed humans capable of making mistakes. Extending compassion to others can make forgiveness feel less like a burden and more a gift for yourself.
- Practice Self-Forgiveness
Sometimes, the hardest person to forgive is yourself. Holding onto guilt or shame for past mistakes can prevent you from moving forward. Recognise that you are deserving of the same compassion and forgiveness you extend to others.
- Commit to the Process
Forgiveness is rarely a one-time event. It’s a journey that may require revisiting emotions and recommitting to letting go. Be patient with yourself and trust the process
Misconceptions About Forgiving
“Forgiveness Means Forgetting”
Forgiveness doesn’t require erasing the memory of what happened. It’s about transforming the emotional response to the memory so it no longer holds power over you.
“Forgiveness is a Weakness”
Far from being a sign of weakness, forgiveness is an act of strength and courage. It requires emotional maturity and the ability to rise above pain.
“I Can’t Forgive Unless They Apologise”
Forgiveness is for your benefit, not theirs. Waiting for an apology gives the other person power over your healing process. Forgiveness allows you to reclaim that power.
“Forgiving means Reconciling”
While forgiveness can pave the way for reconciliation, it doesn’t always have to. You can forgive someone and still set boundaries to protect your emotional well-being.
The journey to forgiveness is deeply personal and often challenging, but its rewards are immense. By letting go of resentment, we open ourselves to emotional freedom, better relationships and a more peaceful existence. As you navigate your own path to forgiveness, remember that it’s not forgetting the pain but about choosing to rise above it.
Forgiveness is not just an act, it’s a process of healing and growth. And in that process lies the power to transform not only your life but the lives of those around you.
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Gratitude: How Appreciation Transforms Mental Health
Appreciation and gratitude go a long way, especially in managing your mental health, here’s your guide to understanding its depths!

Gratitude, a fundamental human emotion, has gained increasing attention in psychological research for its impact on mental health and well-being. Defined as the recognition and appreciation of positive aspects of life, gratitude is more than just saying “thank you”, it is a deeper, cognitive-emotional process that fosters positive emotions, enhances interpersonal relationships and contributes to psychological resilience. While gratitude has been a long-standing topic among religious and philosophical studies, it has contemporarily stepped into the world of psychology in recent years. This article explores the depths of gratitude, its psychological mechanisms, its effects on mental health and its application in therapeutic settings with a case vignette to illustrate the significance of gratitude.
Psychological Foundations of Gratitude
Gratitude has been studied in multiple perspectives under psychology including cognitive psychology, positive psychology and social psychology.
Gratitude in Positive Psychology
Positive Psychology, pioneered by Martin Seligman and Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, emphasises human strengths and virtues that contribute to well-being. It serves as an integral part of positive psychology as it promotes emotions, enhances life satisfaction and counteracts negative thought patterns. Studies by Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough (2003) show that individuals who practice gratitude experience increased happiness, reduced depression and greater life satisfaction.
Gratitude in Cognitive Psychology
From a cognitive psychology perspective, gratitude is known to shape thought patterns. It influences mental frameworks by shifting focus from deficiencies, which is what you lack, to abundance. The cognitive-behavioural model suggests that negative thought patterns contribute to emotional distress. It challenges these patterns by redirecting attention toward positive life experiences, fostering an adaptive mindset that can counteract anxious and depressive symptoms.
Gratitude as a Social Emotion
Gratitude is also profoundly a social emotion, reinforcing prosocial behaviours and strengthening social bonds. Research suggests that it increases trust, cooperation and reciprocity in relationships. Expressing gratitude can improve interpersonal connections, leading to stronger social support networks that act as protective tools against stress and mental illness.
The Neuroscience of Gratitude
Advancements in neuroscience have revealed that gratitude engages brain regions associated with emotional regulation and reward processing. Functional MRI (fMRI) studies indicate that gratitude activates the prefrontal cortex, associated with decision-making and emotional regulation, as well as the anterior cingulate cortex, which is involved in emotional processing. Additionally, it stimulates the release of neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin, both of which are involved in positive mood regulation. These findings suggest that gratitude has a biological basis for its effects on mental health.
The Impact of Gratitude on Mental Health
Depression
Depression is characterised by persistent feelings of sadness, loss of interest and negative cognitive biases. People struggling with depression often focus on what’s going wrong with their lives. Gratitude helps shift this focus by highlighting positive aspects, no matter how small. Studies have shown that people who practice it regularly experience fewer negative symptoms.
Anxiety
Gratitude can help manage anxiety, which are recurring thoughts of worry, by promoting a sense of control and reducing uncertainty. Gratitude-based interventions have shown to lower negative feelings by bringing us to the present and reminding us of the good things of our lives.
Stress Management
Stress can be overwhelming, making it hard to think clearly and stay positive. Gratitude can serve as a stress buffer by shifting focus from stressors to positive experiences. Studies have shown that individuals who actively practice gratitude help them feel more in control and are better at handling difficult situations.
Self-Esteem
Self-esteem plays a crucial role in mental health as it is the primary factor in the perception of self and others. Gratitude enhances self-esteem by promoting a sense of worthiness and appreciation for one’s achievements and relationships. When individuals acknowledge positive aspects of their lives, they develop a healthier self-concept eventually reducing feelings of inadequacy and doubt.
How To Practice Gratitude In Daily Life
Gratitude can be practiced by anyone and it does not take much time to make in a day. Here are ways to build gratitude in daily life:
Gratitude Journaling
Gratitude Journaling is a simple yet effective way in which you can write down things you are grateful for daily. This practice enhances your positive emotions, reduces symptoms of depression and improves overall well-being. Journaling helps you reframe negative experiences by focusing on the positive aspects of your life.
Gratitude Letters
Writing gratitude letters to express appreciation to others can strengthen relationships and enhance emotional well-being. Writing a letter to someone who has positively impacted your life can be a powerful experience. Even if you would choose to not send it to them, writing it can help you feel more connected and appreciative.
Mindfulness and Gratitude Practices
Being mindful of your surroundings and being aware of your emotions can create a sense of peace, by integrating this with gratitude practices like reflection of the day, meditation and expressing gratitude to others, can help boost your mood and make the next day better.
A Story of Gratitude: Harley’s Journey
Harley, a 32-year-old man, felt stuck in the sadness of a painful breakup. He constantly blamed himself and struggled with low self-esteem. He started to isolate himself from his friends, and family and found it hard to enjoy life.
His therapist recommended him strongly, to write at least three things he’s grateful for, every single day. At first, he found it difficult to do so, but over time, he started to notice small positive moments like a friend checking in or the beauty of the sunset.
The therapist also encouraged him to write a gratitude letter to a close friend who had supported him throughout. When Harley delivered the letter, he felt a deep sense of connection and appreciation.
After several months of practising gratitude, Harley felt a shift. He started to focus less on his pain and more on the good things in his life. His mood improved, and he reconnected with family and friends as he regained confidence in himself. Gratitude didn’t erase his struggles but it helped him see life from a new perspective.
Gratitude is a simple but powerful tool that can improve mental health by reducing stress, anxiety and depression while increasing happiness and resilience. It helps us shift our focus from what’s missing in our lives to what’s already present, making it easier to find joy and meaning.
By incorporating gratitude into daily routines, whether through journaling, expressing thanks or simply appreciating small moments, anyone can experience mental health benefits. Just like Harley, practising gratitude can help transform the way we think and feel, leading to a happier healthier life.
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Rest : The Art of Doing Nothing
Discover why rest is vital for mental well-being in 2025 and how embracing stillness can transform your life.

The world is increasingly becoming a race, and the emphasis on productivity, activity, and performance seems overwhelming. Pressures arise from work demands, social expectations, and other factors that continually instruct us to keep going, irrespective of the consequences. In the run-up to 2025, it is increasingly acknowledged that rest is not merely a desire but an imperative to sustain one’s mental health. The practice of doing nothing- in other words, the practice of resting, was increasingly viewed as a means of rejuvenating oneself and a source of improved well-being and, ultimately, an enhanced quality of life.
The Cultural Shift Toward Rest
For decades, the idea of rest was associated with laziness, reflecting weakness or low ambition. This was a powerful mindset present among the cultures of many nations, especially in high-pressure environments such as workplaces, schools, and social media. However, this view is slowly changing, with the realisation that it is essential to be still, relax, and not do anything. Such cultural change especially hits home even harder now after the pandemic, which drove innumerable people to rethink their work-life balance and mental health priorities.
As 2025 beckons, a visible paradigm shift towards recognising rest from being a luxury to an essential aspect of sustainable productivity, creativity, and emotional stability has emerged. Many experts argue that rest is not just good for us; it is necessary for mental and physical health.
Mental Health and Rest: A Crucial Connection
Rest is not simply inactivity; it is a phase in which the mind and body recuperate, heal, and regenerate. Our brain needs stillness to process information, build memories, and restore energy. Ignoring the necessity of rest and recovery often leads to chronic stress, burnout, and anxiety.
Studies are consistent that lack of sleep and continuous stress lead to actual damage to good mental health: depression, anxiety, and even reduced cognitive abilities. As people take a deep nap, meditate, or focus on living in the moment, their brains are finally given a break from overstimulation, which modern life often puts up. The increasing awareness of mental health in 2025 indicates how pivotal physical and psychological rest is to overall well-being.
The Science Behind Doing Nothing
Doing nothing has been seen as a period of brain recovery time. Neuroscientists have studied the idle time of the brain. Evidence recognises that rest periods might engage the brain’s default mode network (DMN), active during creativity, emotional processing, and memory consolidation. In other words, doing nothing supports the brain’s natural processes-including mental clarity and emotional equilibrium.
That is why a short “idle” moment, a purposeless walk or a sit-in stillness can be so decisive. Rather than feeling guilty-noshing that all-important productive time has slipped away, those moments let the brain respite to process some emotion and gear up for another round of action. In 2025, accepting rest may be one of the better strategies to help the brain act smoothly and improve emotional resilience.
Practical Ways to Incorporate Rest
While the idea of doing nothing seems easy in theory, it can be challenging to slow down in practice. Packed with commitments and many of us permanently plugged into our devices, it’s often difficult to disengage from the world. That said, there are a few practical ways to create more space for rest within your routine without radically changing your style of living.
- Schedule Unplugged Time: Set aside some chunks of your day for unplugging. This means no email, social media, or just quiet time.
- Practice Mindfulness or Meditation: A few minutes each day spent in meditation, focusing on breath alone, is highly restorative for the brain.
- Take Short Naps: A short power nap may take somewhere between 10 and 20 minutes, refresh the brain, and restore focus, creativity, and mood.
- Indulge in Passive Hobbies: Passive hobbies like reading, listening to music or even watching people provide the brain with refreshing eco-therapy.
- Sleep: Make sure you do everything possible to sleep restful hours with proper quality sleep. Sleep is the kind of rest that is most efficient for a brain.
The Social Stigma of Rest: Breaking Free
One of the barriers to embracing rest as a mental health priority is the social stigma surrounding idleness. In many cultures, people are often judged for taking breaks or relaxing too much. This societal expectation to always be busy can lead to feelings of guilt when we take time to rest.
However, as the conversation around mental health evolves in 2025, this stigma is starting to dissipate. Influential voices in wellness, psychology, and even corporate leadership are increasingly championing the importance of rest. The idea that rest can fuel greater productivity, innovation, and personal satisfaction is gaining ground. As we prioritise self-care, the notion that rest is a sign of laziness is slowly being replaced with an understanding that it is an essential part of a healthy and balanced life.
Embracing Rest as a Mental Health Priority
The further we go into 2025, the more significant becomes the call for prioritising rest. “The art of doing nothing” is neither ignoring responsibilities nor developing laziness; instead, it’s permitting ourselves to attain some recharging to be ever more present, focused, and resilient in each aspect of life. In such a world of unending movement, nothing is better than taking a moment to be still to keep itself one sane.
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Family Therapy in India: Bridging Bonds and Healing Together
Exploring the growing significance of family therapy in India and its role in strengthening relationships and bonds

The family has been India’s heart and soul of values and culture. Interdependent relationships have been the natural support systems since joint families. Still, with modernisation, especially urbanisation and nuclear families with fast-paced lives, families interact differently today. Communication gaps, generational differences, and stress have spawned conflicts that can’t be tackled with informal means. This is where family therapy comes in, providing structured approaches to addressing the problems of emotions and psychology within families.
What is Family Therapy?
Family therapy is a form of psychotherapy that aims to resolve conflicts, improve communication, and strengthen relationships within a family. It understands that individual problems often arise from the more significant dynamics of the family and works to address the issues collectively. It is unlike individual therapy, where several members are involved in the process, and each gets a chance to express their feelings and work toward mutual understanding.
The Unique Context of Family Therapy in India
In India it naturally carries a different flavour due to its strong social and cultural base. Traditional and modern streams sometimes conflict with each other. For example, children usually rebel against their parents over careers, marriage, or parental issues. Some of the most significant advantages are that the stigma about mental illness is still very prevalent in most areas, and this creates a heavy barrier for people to approach the family for help. It helps to overcome this challenge by providing an open space for discussion.
Common Issues Treated in Family Therapy
Parent-Child Conflicts: Differences in values, expectations, and communication styles can strain parent-child relationships.
Marital Struggles: Problems like lack of communication, infidelity, or differing life goals are addressed through therapy.
Generational Gaps: Therapy helps bridge the divide between older and younger generations, fostering mutual understanding.
Mental Health Challenges: Family therapy supports individuals with mental health conditions by involving their families in the healing process.
Life Transitions: Divorce, death, or relocation can be a disruption to family harmony, which therapy helps to restore.
Techniques Used in Family Therapy
Indian therapists use a range of culturally sensitive approaches. Some of the most commonly used techniques include:
Structural Therapy: This is a reorganisation of family roles and boundaries.
Systemic Therapy: This studies how behaviour patterns affect the whole family.
Narrative Therapy: This encourages family members to reframe negative narratives about themselves or others.
Psychoeducation: It educates families about mental health issues to create empathy and understanding.
Benefits of Family Therapy
It connects families to enhance trust, communication, and emotions. It tries to solve a deep-seated conflict between parents and their kids and helps bind them closer and more muscular by maintaining a non-confrontational relationship. Therapy serves as an avenue for mental illnesses, giving better care and taking care of one’s child. In return, it assists in the better resolution of a conflict that otherwise would be cumbersome to resolve afterwards.
Difficulties in the Adoption of Family Therapy in India
It is not an easy approach in India. People are pretty discouraged towards therapies because mental illness stigmatises the person’s mind, and hence, families are reluctant to bring patients to therapy. Secondly, people are unaware of the availability of family therapy. Many are unaware of the accessibility issues in rural areas and the scarcity of mental health professionals in these areas. However, it is being eased with increasing awareness campaigns and online therapy options.
As the nation begins to talk more about mental health, family therapy is likely to play a massive role in making familial bonds stronger. Schools, workplaces, and community organisations can also contribute by promoting awareness and providing access to therapy resources. Most importantly, the family has to take the first step toward open communication and professional help when required.
To Recap
Family therapy is not just an intervention for clinical issues but a potential catalyst for regaining harmony and understanding within a family. An intervention that addresses conflicts and then strengthens communication enables the family to deal with the confusion of modern life amid culture. In the coming days, with the stigma over mental health reducing, this approach will, without doubt, become a vital component of Indian society’s journey towards emotional and psychological well-being.
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The Illusion of Perfection: Overcoming Toxic Perfectionism
Many suffer from thge heavy badge of ‘Perfectionsim’. Dive deep into the world of toxic perfectionism, its impact and more!

Perfectionism can feel like a badge of honor, symbolising diligence, ambition and an unyielding pursuit of excellence. However, when perfectionism turns toxic, it becomes a heavy burden, one that drains joy, fuels anxiety and leads to self-sabotage. Toxic perfectionism is not just about striving for excellence, it’s about an unhealthy fixation on fearlessness, often accompanied by an intense fear of failure and harsh self-criticism.
This article explores the psychological roots of toxic perfectionism, its impact and actionable strategies to let go of this debilitating mindset. To illustrate, case vignette provides practical insights into how these principles can work in real life.
The Psychology of Toxic Perfectionism
Psychologists often differentiate between two types of perfectionism: adaptive perfectionism and maladaptive perfectionism. While adaptive perfectionism involves striving for high standards and personal growth, toxic perfectionism stems from an excessive need for approval, fear of rejection and a belief that worth is contingent upon flawless performance.
Roots of Toxic Perfectionism
Childhood Experiences
Toxic perfectionism often originates in childhood. People raised in environments with overly critical or demanding parents may learn to equate love and acceptance with perfect behaviour. For instance, children who were praised exclusively for achievements, rather than efforts, might internalise the idea that mistakes make them unworthy.
Cognitive Distortions
Toxic perfectionists frequently engage in all-or-nothing thinking. A minor mistake may feel like a catastrophic failure, reinforcing beliefs like “If I’m not perfect, I’m a failure”. Over time, this black-and-white thinking erodes self-esteem.
Cultural and Social Influences
Societal norms, social media and workplace cultures that glorify flawlessness exacerbate perfectionist tendencies. Comparisons with idealised portrayals of inadequacy, fueling the cycle of toxic perfectionism.
Psychological Impact of Toxic Perfectionism
Toxic perfectionism is not just a mindset, it’s a pattern of behaviour that can profoundly impact mental health and quality of life.
Anxiety and Depression
The constant fear of making mistakes can lead to heightened anxiety, while persistent feelings of failure and inadequacy can result in depression.
Procrastination
Paradoxically, toxic perfectionists often procrastinate. They delay tasks because they fear work won’t meet their impossibly high expectations. This avoidance exacerbates stress and creates a vicious cycle of guilt and self-blame.
Burnout
The relentless pursuit of perfection can lead to emotional, mental and physical exhaustion. Over time, the burnout erodes motivation and can make even small tasks feel overwhelming.
Strained Relationships
Perfectionists may impose their high standards on others, leading to frustration and conflict in personal and professional relationships. Their fear of vulnerability can also hinder authentic connections.
Breaking Free From Toxic Perfectionism
Letting go of toxic perfectionism requires self-awareness, a willingness to embrace imperfection and deliberate effort to reframe negative thought patterns. Here are seven evidence based strategies to help you break free:
- Redefine Success
Start by redefining success in a way that aligns with your values rather than external standards. Ask yourself “What does a meaningful life look like to me?”. Recognise that success is about progress, growth and fulfilment, not perfection.
- Challenge Negative Thinking
Pay attention to critical self-talk and cognitive distortions. When you catch yourself thinking “I must do this perfectly” counter it with more balanced statements such as, “I’m doing my best and that’s enough”
- Practice Self-Compassion
Kristen Neff, a leading researcher on self-compassion defines it as treating yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend. When you make a mistake, remind yourself, “Everyone makes mistakes. This doesn’t define me”.
- Set Realistic Goals
Break large tasks into smaller, achievable steps. Celebrate small wins rather than waiting for a perfect outcome. Realistic goals allow you to maintain momentum without overwhelming yourself.
- Embrace Mistakes as Learning Opportunities
Shift your perspective on failure. Instead of seeing mistakes as evidence of inadequacy, view them as opportunities to learn and grow. A growth mindset fosters resilience and curiosity.
- Limit Social Comparison
Comparing yourself to others often leads to feelings of inadequacy. Focus on your own journey and progress, rather than measuring yourself against external benchmarks.
- Seek Professional Support
Therapy can be incredibly helpful for addressing the underlying causes of toxic perfectionism. Cognitive-behavioural Therapy (CBT) in particular, is effective in challenging perfectionist beliefs and developing healthier thought patterns.
Case Vignette: Sarah’s Transformation
Sarah, a 30-year old marketing executive, appeared to have it all together. She was admired for her creativity, dedication and ability to deliver high-quality work. However, behind the scenes, Sarah struggled with crippling perfectionism. She spent hours revising presentations, fearing even minor errors. Sarah’s weekends were consumed by work, and she often sacrificed sleep to meet her impossibly high standards.
Over time, Sarah’s health began to decline. She felt anxious, isolated and increasingly irritable. Despite her hard work, she never felt satisfied with her achievements. Concerned about her well-being, Sarah’s manager encouraged her to seek therapy.
Through CBT, Sarah uncovered the roots of her perfectionism, growing up with parents who valued achievement above all else, she had internalised the belief that her worth was tied to being perfect. Her therapist helped her challenge her thoughts like “If I’m not perfect, I’ll fail” and replace them with healthier beliefs such as, “My value is not determined by my performance”
Sarah also began practicing self-compassion and setting boundaries. She learned to submit her work without obsessing over minor details and started celebrating her progress instead of fixating on perceived flaws. Over time, Sarah’s anxiety diminished, and she found a renewed sense of balance and joy in her life.
Letting go of toxic perfectionism is not about lowering your standards or abandoning your goals. Instead, it’s about recognising that perfectionism is an illusion and embracing the messy, imperfect reality of being human.
Cultivating self-compassion, realistic expectations and a growth mindset can help you break free from the cycle of toxic perfectionism. By doing so, you create a space for authenticity, creativity and resilience, qualities that foster true success and well-being.
Ultimately, this journey to overcome toxic perfectionism is about rediscovering your worth, not as a flawless individual, but as a perfectly imperfect human being.
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Women’s Mental Health in India
Exploring the unique mental health challenges women in India face and the urgent need to overcome stigma and inequality.

Mental health is something that, over the years, has been sadly neglected in India, being surrounded by stigma and cultural taboos. However, for women, it is a huge issue due to societal expectations, gender inequality, and limited access to resources that further compound their mental health struggles. Of course, awareness about mental health has increased over the past few years, but there remains a high gap in understanding the specific issues faced by women.
Societal Burden
Societally, women are urged to care for their families and place preferences over themselves. Role definitions also depend on the traditional gender role setting encompassing caregiving, followed by self-sacrificing. The magnitude of stress on a woman’s mental level can lead to anxiety or depression.
Women are also affected by societal norms that limit their freedoms. For instance, the decision to attend school, choose a career, or get married is often made by family members, leaving many women feeling powerless over their lives. Such restrictions affect not only their emotional well-being but also limit their ability to seek help when facing mental health challenges.
Gender-Specific Challenges
Indian women face certain mental health problems more acutely because of their gender. For example, postpartum depression is largely ignored, as a new mother is expected to immediately adjust to her caregiving role. Likewise, domestic violence, which is an issue that has still not seen a decline in India, can lead to long-term trauma and mental health disorders.
The other issue is society’s preference for male children, which leads to immense pressure on women who are blamed when they do not give birth to sons. This kind of social pressure intensifies feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem, leading to depression and anxiety.
The Stigma around Mental Health
Stigma remains one of the biggest barriers to addressing mental health issues among women in India. Many women fear being judged, ostracized, or labelled as “weak” if they seek help. Mental health issues are often dismissed as “overreactions” or attributed to spiritual causes rather than treated as legitimate medical conditions.
Lack of education and awareness continues to enhance stigma. In rural areas, people are less aware of the symptoms of mental health disorders, and this has led to people seeking traditional remedies or faith-based practices instead of using professional resources.
Availability of Mental Health Services
Access to mental health services in India is limited, and women face additional barriers to receiving care. Financial dependency on family members often prevents women from seeking professional help. Moreover, mental health infrastructure is concentrated in urban areas, leaving rural women with few options for support.
The lack of mental health professionals in India is another problem leading to this crisis. The country has fewer than one psychiatrist for every 100,000 people, which makes the growing demand for mental health care.
Steps Towards Change
Still, there are steps forward. Mental health advocacy increases, helping reduce stigma, especially in the minds of young people. Through social media, mental health initiatives, and workshops, more women are motivated to care about their mental well-being.
Government programs like the National Mental Health Programme (NMHP) have been launched to increase mental health services across the country, though more focused efforts are required to meet the specific needs of women. Educating women, legal reforms, and economic independence can also improve their mental health.
Grassroots organizations and NGOs are also working towards creating safe spaces for women to discuss their mental health issues and seek help. Counselling and therapy aside, such initiatives also educate communities on the importance of mental health care.
A Step Forward
To begin with, it will be a multi-pronged approach to dealing with stigma, gender inequality, and systemic barriers that affect women in India. By empowering women and providing them with an environment where mental health is prioritized, India can make giant strides towards the well-being of half its population. The journey is long, but every step forward brings hope for a healthier and more equitable future.
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