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Your Valentine’s Day Guide For Your Single Friend

It’s the day of love, yet you forgot about the most essential part of your life who had your back way before you were swept off your feet?

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Valentine’s Day, the day when love is in the air (supposedly). A day for couples to find another reason to celebrate their love because the rest 364 days in a year are just not enough. A day for the marketing world to either remind you, how lonely you are and profit off your loneliness by making you splurge more than necessary on things you will never use, or make a profit by reminding you how your declaration of love is unfulfilled without you gifting your dearly beloved their newest obnoxiously expensive limited edition perfume (that smells as gross as high the price is).

And let’s not even talk about going out for a stroll or to the local mart, a person can’t even go to buy a packet of Maggi without being greeted by the sight of the strategically placed limited edition Valentine’s Day chocolate right in the middle of the store, elaborately packed and insanely expensive with a taste which is not so different from a regular bar of chocolate. Valentine’s Day fever can never be missed.

The Plight of Singlehood

From being denied free entries to clubs to being eyed suspiciously when you book a table for one at a restaurant to not being able to get an apartment solely because it’s a “residential area”, singles are treated as anomalies in society in every walk of life. Ironically it’s many of these singles that eventually make up the society. From being told by aunties to stop eating so much biryani at weddings so that they’ll get married by the next month to being that awkward third-wheeler at their best friend’s dinner with his/her/their beau, it’s like the entire world is conspiring against their singularity.

Here’s a small guide as to how you can make this Valentine’s a little more cute and bearable for your first and ever-lasting true love, your FRIENDS (yes, we are talking about the ones who proofread all your texts before you send them to your boo, be your alibi without you even asking for it, showing up with ice cream and wine and sappy rom-com with an elaborate plan to murder your so-called boo once he thinks it’s time to say “it’s not you, it’s me” and leave you without even giving you a proper goodbye, yes we are talking about those precious and rare munchkins) :

1) This Valentine’s Day: Plan A Day For Them

While you and your beau are busy planning your romantic getaways don’t forget your darling munchkin will be all alone drowning in work or something to keep their mind off the obnoxious display of love everywhere. Now some may be tougher than others but that doesn’t mean they don’t wish for some company when literally they are greeted by the sight of people being unable to keep their hands off each other at every crossing. So, how about you plan a small gateway just for them? Just to remind them that you indeed didn’t forget about them, and planned out a day for them filled with things they love doing just so they feel a little light when somebody asks about how they are planning to go about their entire day. And most importantly, always ask them to send pics at the end of the day, simply to show that you care.

2) This Valentine’s Day:  Send A Cake With A Cheesy Pick-up Line

Trust me nothing beats a good old cake with a cheesy pickup line to put a smile on your friend’s face, and if you guys are truly close, they will instantly know for sure that it’s you and have a good hearty laugh with a satisfied sweet tooth.  If you can bake the cake that’s even better, just make sure that when you drop it off, nobody sees you. The best part is their reaction changing from cringed out to rolling on the floor laughing when it hits them that it’s your doing.

3) This Valentine’s Day: Plan A Cat/ Dog/ Kiddo Date

Do you know who always manages to turn a frown upside down? Furry paws and kids. If your crazy single munchkin is an animal lover, there’s nothing they would love more than a day well spent at a dog/ cat café or at an animal shelter. If they prefer hands over paws, orphanages are always a good option, not only will it put a smile on your friend’s face, but it will put a smile on 100 children’s faces. Sometimes all that these tiny angels who are left alone in this world want are a little bit more of your time over any donated goods.

4) This Valentine’s Day: Gift Something That You Made

I know it’s easy to just send a gift from Amazon, or from other online platforms, but dear if you can spend a week crocheting a scarf for your beau, I think it’s fair to say that you can spend at least an hour to crochet some roses and other flowers for your ride or die forever munchkin. Don’t know how to crochet? Write a letter. Not good with words? Make a bouquet of their favourite books or music CDs. Remember excuses are only meant for those who don’t value you, not for those who flood your comment section with “SLAY”, “GORGEOUS BEAUTY”, “How can one be such a beauty and still be a freakin’ HUMAN? I DEMAND AN ANSWER” and pick up your call even at 4 am.

5) This Valentine’s Day: Squeeze Out A Bit Of Your Time For Them:

Lastly, no matter what you make or do for them, your munchkin will always take 5 mins of your time over any of those above-mentioned suggestions. Yes, spending your Valentine’s Day with your dearly beloved is important, but you can always squeeze out a little brunch or an evening stroll filled with window shopping with your first true love. They would appreciate this so much more over any gift any day because let’s not forget it was your crazy stupid self that made them stay with you all these years not the gifts or the glitz.

Don’t Forget…

People think it is easy being single but trust me it’s not easy to go to your favourite eatery only to order something that is almost always either too much for a single person or very little for one person, there’s never a perfect ratio. And let’s not get started with the dilemma of whether to order an appetizer along with a main course because it will become too much or go straight to the main course but keep dreaming about that appetizing plate of stuffed mushrooms with every bite of your Spaghetti Bolognese. Never forget the time when you were part of the singles club too.

Being a singleton in a society that literally created a social institution of marriage to keep people together, is a high price to pay for a fault that is not even theirs, to begin with. So, instead of rubbing it on their face (intentionally or unintentionally) on this day made to rub it on their face (how lovely!), why not make them feel like they deserve the whole world as they tirelessly try to ensure your world never collapses under their watch?

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Beyond the Diagnosis: Unpacking the Complexity of ADHD

ADHD is more than distraction—it’s a daily struggle with focus, emotions, and stigma that demands empathy and support.

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When one says Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), they envision a fidgety kid who can’t sit still or a person who’s constantly distracted. The common stereotype is inaccurate and oversimplified. ADHD is a complex neurodevelopmental disorder that affects the lives of millions across all ages. It’s not just a matter of being hyperactive or inattentive—it’s a matter of having a brain that works differently, usually in ways the world is not designed to adapt.

This piece unpacks the richness of ADHD by going beyond the clinical checklist and examining emotional, cognitive, and social difficulties while emphasising the value of support and empathy.

The Core: Executive Functioning Challenges

Executive dysfunction is at the core of ADHD. Executive functions are the brain’s self-regulation system—skills such as planning, organising, prioritising, initiating tasks, and managing emotions. In ADHD, these skills are not missing but inconsistent and often unstable.

Individuals with ADHD can experience periods of hyperfocus—total immersion in a task they love, to hours of trying to get started on a simple task. This erratic pattern usually results in frustration, self-criticism, and an impression by others that the individual is lazy or negligent. It is, in reality, a neurological dilemma, not a personality issue.

Emotional Dysregulation: The Unseen Struggle

One of the most neglected areas of ADHD is emotional dysregulation. Individuals with ADHD might experience feelings more intensely and have difficulty regulating those sensations in the moment. A small defeat may cause an outburst, or a minor comment can be interpreted as profoundly hurtful.

These responses are not something to overdramatise about—they’re a function of the brain’s inability to regulate emotions. With time, these overwhelming emotional reactions can lead to anxiety, depression, and other comorbid psychiatric conditions. Emotional dysregulation can also undermine self-esteem, particularly if friends, family, or colleagues misunderstand.

These struggles socially may lead to stigma.

ADHD doesn’t happen in isolation—it impacts social relationships and interactions significantly. Most individuals with ADHD interrupt others, forget crucial details, or appear inattentive, even when attempting to do their best to participate. Such behaviours pressure friendships and love relationships, usually leaving the affected person isolated and misunderstood.

In occupational and educational settings, the ongoing struggle to look “normal” can result in masking and dismissing symptoms to blend in. Though it allows the person to perform for the moment, it’s psychologically draining and results in burnout. Stigma around ADHD, especially among adults, adds to the notion that those with the condition are flaky or immature, which causes them to avoid asking for help or support.

Diagnosis: A Beginning, Not an End

A diagnosis of ADHD can be both liberating and daunting. On the one hand, it is a model for explaining lifelong challenges; on the other, it usually delivers a tidal wave of “what ifs”—What if I’d known earlier? What if I’d had help sooner?

It’s critical to understand that the DSM-5 criteria are a beginning point, but they don’t reflect the lived experience of ADHD. Many are underdiagnosed as women and non-binary individuals, whose symptoms fall outside the classic hyperactive stereotype. Instead, they may be described as anxious, moody, or disorganised—labels that mask their struggles’ real roots.

The Path to Support: Medication, Therapy, and Lifestyle

No single answer exists for how to deal with ADHD. Stimulant drugs can be a lifesaver for most, but they’re not a cure. Medication is most effective when complemented by therapy, behavioural guidance, and changes to lifestyle and environment.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and ADHD coaching can assist individuals in developing coping skills, enhancing time management, and addressing self-destructive thought patterns. Establishing structure—using calendars, reminders, or charts—can help make everyday tasks easier. Regular exercise, proper sleep, and a healthy diet contribute significantly to symptom management.

Support networks are essential. Parents, teachers, peers, and employers need to be educated about ADHD to offer the understanding and adaptations that enable individuals to succeed instead of merely to exist.

Embracing Neurodiversity

ADHD is part of the larger neurodiversity movement—a push to accept that brains are different and that difference should be valued, not pathologised. Individuals with ADHD frequently offer creativity, spontaneity, and out-of-the-box problem-solving. They might succeed in high-tempo systems, business start-ups, or the arts. But to leverage these assets, they require spaces that appreciate their differences rather than punish them.

ADHD is more than distraction or hyperactivity. It’s a condition that touches all aspects of life—emotionally, socially, and functionally. Diagnosis is only the first step. What is essential is the knowledge that comes after, from professionals, families, institutions, and society.

If we can get past the diagnosis, we can realise that ADHD isn’t a deficit but a divergent way of experiencing the world—one that, with appropriate support, can be no less rich, successful, and rewarding than any other.

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Rooted in Calm: How Nature Helps Ease Anxiety and Depression

Nature is always the best medicine. Understand how nature exposure can make your life so much more calm and mindful.

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When life feels heavy, it’s often instinctive to step outside — into the sun, under the trees or near water. We may say we “just need some fresh air”, but what we’re really seeking is something deeper: regulation, clarity and a return to calm. 

   In recent years, science has begun confirming what we’ve always sensed, spending time in nature reduces symptoms of anxiety and depression. Whether it’s a walk in the park, gardening or even just sitting under a tree, time in green spaces supports mental health in powerful, measurable ways. 

   This article explores why nature exposure helps regulate emotions, how it affects the brain and body and practical ways to integrate nature into your daily routine, no matter where you live. 

The Science Behind Nature and Mental Health

Nature provides more than just a break from screens and schedules, it creates a shift in how your nervous system functions.

Research shows that exposure to nature:

  • Lowers cortisol, the body’s primary stress hormone
  • Reduces activity in the amygdala, the part of the brain associated with fear and rumination
  • Increases serotonin and dopamine, improving mood and emotional balance
  • Improves sleep quality, energy levels and immune function
  • Restores attention and focus, counteracting mental fatigue

   This effect is sometimes called “soft fascination”, the gentle, effortless attention we give to natural stimuli (like rustling leaves or ocean waves), which helps the brain reset from overstimulation and overthinking.

Why Nature Helps With Anxiety and Depression

Calms the Nervous System

Anxiety activates the body’s fight or flight response. Nature cues the opposite: rest and digest. The slower rhythms of the natural world help signal safety to the body, lowering heart rate and tension. 

Disrupts Rumination

Depression is often linked to overthinking and looping negative thoughts. Being in nature changes your focus, grounds you in the present and provides perspective, both mentally and physically.

Encourages Movement

Gentle physical activity like walking, hiking or even gardening releases endorphins, supports emotional release and boosts mood.

Offers Sensory Regulation

Natural light, textures, colours and sounds create soothing sensory input that can help regulate emotional states, especially helpful for those prone to overwhelm.

Supports Connection and Meaning

Spending time in natural spaces often creates a sense of awe, wonder or connectedness to something larger. This can foster meaning, spiritual grounding or a sense of peace.

Chloe’s Story: Finding Calm Among the Trees

Chloe, a 35-year-old journalist, has been experiencing high-functioning anxiety for years, managing her responsibilities well but feeling chronically tense, irritable and unable to relax.

   Her therapist encouraged her to spend 20 minutes a day in natural surroundings. At first, she only managed to sit on her balcony with a plant. But soon, she began walking through a tree-lined trail near her home each evening, without music or podcasts, just walking and observing. 

   Within weeks, she noticed her thoughts slowing down. Her sleep improved. She began looking forward to that time outdoors — not as an escape, but as a return to herself. 

   Chloe’s story reflects what countless others experience: nature doesn’t ask for performance, productivity or perfection. It simply invites presence and healing follows.

Accessible Ways to Add Nature to Your Day

You don’t need a mountain or forest to benefit. Even small, consistent exposure to nature has measurable effects on mental health.

Here’s how to begin:

Nature walks

A 15-30 minute walk in a park or tree-lined street a few times a week can lower anxiety and depressive symptoms. Try walking without your phone or music, paying attention to colours, sounds and sensations.

Create a Green Nook

Place a few plants near your window, desk or bedside. Research shows indoor greenery can reduce stress, improve focus and support emotional regulation.

Take Work Outside

Answer emails, journal or take calls outside when possible. Even 10 minutes of natural light and air can shift your mood.

Grounding With Barefood Time

Standing barefoot on grass, soil or sand, also called “earthing”, has been linked to reduced inflammation and better sleep. It also enhances body awareness and helps you feel more grounded.

Mindful Nature Moments

Pause to notice a flower, watch clouds pass or listen to birdsongs. These small moments of awareness are powerful mental resets.

How Much Nature is Enough?

Studies suggest that even two hours of nature per week can significantly improve mental health. This doesn’t have to be all at once, 10-20 minutes a day is enough to notice benefits.

   The key is intention. It’s not just being near trees, it’s being with them. Noticing. Slowing down, allowing nature to work its quiet magic.

Nature for Urban Lives

If you live in a dense or crowded city, here are ways to create micro-moments of green connection:

  • Visit a local botanical garden or public park.
  • Sit under a tree during lunch breaks.
  • Look up at the sky between errands.
  • Use nature soundscapes (ocean, forest, rain) while resting.
  • Watch sunrise or sunset from your window or rooftop.
  • Keep fresh herbs, succulents or low-light plants indoors.

   The goal isn’t to escape life, it’s to reconnect with what soothes and strengthens you within it.

   In a world full of noise, speed and pressure, nature remains a place of quiet wisdom. It doesn’t demand anything from us, yet it gives so much.

   Regular contact with the natural world has been shown to ease the symptoms of anxiety and depression, help regulate our nervous system and offer a sense of stability when everything else feels uncertain.

   When life feels tight, tense or overwhelming, step outside. Let the breeze soften your breath, let the sunlight warm your skin, let the birdsong remind you that not everything is urgent. Nature doesn’t cure everything, but it consistently helps.

   Because the most powerful medicine is already growing around you.

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Managing Micro-Stressors Before They Take Over

Piling up of small stressful situations can lead to burnout. Understand micro-stressors and learn to tackle them now!

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It’s not always the big crises that drain us. Sometimes, it’s the unread emails, traffic jams, multitasking, last-minute requests or even the constant pings from our phones that wear us down. These aren’t full-blown emergencies, but they add up. Welcome to the world of micro-stressors.

   Micro-stressors are the small, subtle pressures that we face daily that seek insignificant on their own but can accumulate and impact our mental health in real, lasting ways. When ignored, they can lead to anxiety, irritability, burnout and even physical symptoms like fatigue and headaches. 

   This article explores what micro-stressors are, how they affect our well-being and practical ways to build resilience and regain a sense of calm amidst the everyday chaos.

What are Micro-Stressors?

Micro-stressors are minor, recurring stress events that often go unnoticed because they seem so common. They don’t provoke an immediate “fight or flight” reaction— but they create a slow, persistent drain on our mental and emotional reserves. 

Examples include:

  • Running late in the morning
  • Back-to-back meetings or messages
  • Technical glitches
  • Background noise
  • Feeling under appreciated at work
  • Managing constant decision-making
  • Feeling “always on” due to digital overload

   These moments may seem small— but they repeatedly activate low-level stress responses in the body, keeping us in a constant state of mental tension.

Why Micro-Stressors Matter?

Individually, micro-stressors seem harmless. But the cumulative effect is powerful. Think of them like drips of water filling a glass, eventually, even one extra drop can cause it to overflow.

Micro-stressors contribute to:

  • Cognitive fatigue: Difficulty concentrating or remembering things.
  • Emotional irritability: Snapping at small things or feeling overly sensitive.
  • Anxiety: A sense of constant low-grade worry or being on edge.
  • Sleep disruptions: Trouble winding down or waking up still tired.
  • Physical symptoms: Tension headaches, neck pain, digestive systems.

   The body and mind are constantly responding, even when we think we’re “handling it”. Over time, micro-stress becomes chronic stress.

The Science Behind Micro-Stress

Every time we experience a stressor, our brain releases cortisol and adrenaline. These hormones are helpful in short bursts, but when triggered repeatedly by small, unresolved stressors, they keep the nervous system in a heightened state.

   Research shows that chronic low-grade stress increases inflammation in the body, impairs immune function and can disrupt emotional regulation. Unlike a major stressful event, which typically comes with emotional support of time to recover, micro-stressors often go unnoticed so recovery doesn’t happen.

   This creates what experts call an “allostatic load”, the cumulative wear and tear on the body from repeated stress exposure.

How to Recognise Micro-Stress in Your Life

You may be dealing with micro-stress overload if you notice:

  • Constant tiredness, even after rest.
  • Feeling overwhelmed by “small” things
  • Trouble focusing or making decisions 
  • Frequent mood swings
  • Feeling emotionally disconnected or numb

   The first step to reducing the impact is noticing where micro-stress shows up in your daily life:

Tina’s Story: The Weight of the Small Stuff

Tina, a 29-year-old teacher, didn’t think of herself as someone who was “stressed”. She didn’t have any big problems in life but she often felt anxious, impatient and utterly exhausted by the end of the day.

   Her morning started with hitting snooze too many times, skipping breakfast and rushing through traffic. At work, constant emails, loud environments and tight schedules left her with no real break. By evening, even small decisions like “what to eat for dinner” felt overwhelming.

   With her therapist, Tina began tracking her micro-stressors. She started identifying what drained her energy and created small rituals to protect her peace. A slower morning routine, intentional screen breaks and five-minute breathing sessions helped her regain control. 

   She didn’t change her whole life, just her relationship with the small things. And that made all the difference. 

How to Tackle Micro-Stressors

You don’t need a major life overhaul to feel better. Here are some simple, sustainable ways to reduce the impact of daily micro-stress:

Create Transition Rituals

Micro-stress thrives in moments of rushing. Build brief pauses between tasks— stretching, walking or even three deep breaths between meetings or errands. This helps reset your nervous system.

Simplify Your Decision-Making

Decision fatigue is a major micro-stressor. Reduce it by meal planning, planning outfits or automating routines. Save mental energy for what really matters.

Protect Your Mornings

Start your day with calm, not chaos. Avoid checking your phone first thing. Try journaling, a 10-minute walk or listening to music before jumping into demands. 

Use a “Stress Audit”

At the end of your day, jot down:

  • What drained me?
  • What energised me?

This builds awareness and helps you make small adjustments over time.

Practice Micro-Recovery

Short, frequent breaks during the day are more effective than waiting for weekends. Try 5 minutes of fresh air, listening to a calming song, closing your eyes and breathing slowly for 60 seconds.

Manage Notifications and Noise

Constant digital interruptions increase cognitive stress. Turn off non-essential notifications and create “quiet pockets” in your day, no screens and no demands.

Don’t Dismiss the Small Wins

Completing small tasks gives a dopamine boost and resets overwhelm. Celebrate even tiny accomplishments like replying to an email, tidying a corner or taking a break.

Micro-Mindfulness for Micro-Stressors

One of the most effective tools for handling micro-stress is micro-mindfulness, short moments of awareness built into your routine. Noticing the texture of your food while eating; Focusing on how your feet feel during a walk; Taking 30 seconds to breathe deeply before opening a message— these pauses disrupt the constant reactive mode and help your body feel safe again.

   Life may never be completely free of stress, but it’s often not the massive moments that go unnoticed, unaddressed and unresolved. 

   By bringing awareness to micro-stressors and practicing small, consistent shifts, you can protect your energy, restore mental clarity and feel more in control of your day.

   You don’t need to eliminate every stressor. You just need to give yourself enough space to breathe in between. Because in the end, it’s not about having a stress-free life, it’s about having the tools to stay grounded in the one you already have.

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Becoming the Safe Haven Your Family Needs

Healing begins long before therapy. Learn how to be the safe space your loved ones and family need when they ask for help.

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When someone we love finally opens up about needing help—be it for mental health, addiction, trauma, or simply life overwhelm—it’s often a quiet, trembling act of bravery. It rarely comes with a dramatic announcement. More often, it’s a comment over breakfast, a cracked voice during a nighttime conversation, or a sigh heavier than usual. And in those moments, the one thing that can make all the difference is you.

Families are our initial ecosystems. The household is the earliest place of learning for safety, trust, and expressing emotions. Although professional intervention is necessary, the journey toward healing often starts—or gets stuck—inside the four walls of a family house. How you react to a family member in quest of help can reinforce their hope or intensify their fear of judgment or misjudgment.

So, how do we become the support system they need when they make that brave leap? Here’s how you can show up for them.

1.Listen Without Fixing

One of the largest errors people make when a family member opens up is going into “fix-it” mode. Although their intention is good, what they probably need first isn’t a fix, but a sanctuary.

Don’t interrupt or advise unless asked to.

Use validating responses: “That sounds really hard,” or “I’m so glad you told me.”

Let silence be. It provides them with space to breathe and trust that you’re not hurrying their process.

Your presence is more impactful than your prescriptions.

2.Don’t Make It About You

Occasionally, listening to someone you love discuss pain will trigger your own discomfort or even guilt—particularly if you sense that you might have caused them distress. But focusing on your own feelings can short-circuit their act of courage.

Instead:

Validate their pain first.

If you must work through your own feelings, do so independently or with your own support group.

Don’t offer up feeble comparisons like “I had it worse” or “You should’ve told me sooner.

Remember: this is their story, not your confessional.

3.Educate Yourself

Being supportive is not merely being emotionally available—it’s being informed about what they’re experiencing. Whether they’re struggling with depression, anxiety, burnout, grief, addiction, or identity issues, taking time to educate yourself on it demonstrates profound respect and commitment.

Read reputable sources.

Attend a support group for families.

Ask your loved one what kind of support they need—or don’t need.

You don’t need to be a professional, but ignorance can lead to unintentional damage. Learning helps fill the gap.

4.Respect Their Pace

Healing is not always a straight line. Your loved one may have some days of forward motion and then appear to take a step back. They may shift back and forth about going to therapy, struggle with finding the best fit, or feel embarrassed about seeking it.

Accompany their process without forcing them. Ask:

“What feels doable right now?”

“Would you like me to assist you in seeking out alternatives?”

“Do you want some company, or some privacy?”

Honor their independence. Helpful doesn’t equal controlling.

5.Be Their Bridge, Not Their Barrier

Too many families still carry around the spirit of stigma. “Don’t air dirty laundry,” or “People will think you’re crazy,” are painful things to say. It may be rooted in fear or cultural programming, but it is very invalidating.

Rather, be the individual who is willing to say:

“Getting help is brave, not weak.”

“You don’t owe anyone your silence.”

“Let’s find someone you feel safe talking to.”

Be the gateway to professional care, not the obstacle they have to battle.

6.Establish a Low-Judgment Environment

Individuals don’t cease suffering when the discussion is over. Arrive with steady kindness:

Ask them the way they’re actually doing (and be sincere).

Normalize discussing emotions in daily life.

Don’t gossip about what they’ve shared with others.

Trust, once broken, is hard to rebuild. Make your home a judgment-free zone.

7. Mind Your Language

Sometimes, harm hides in offhanded jokes or outdated phrases. Avoid using stigmatizing or minimizing terms like:

“You’re being dramatic.”

“Everyone gets anxious sometimes.”

“You just need to pray harder.”

Even in jest, these can invalidate someone’s lived experience. Speak mindfully—words have weight.

8. Take Care of Yourself, Too

Assisting another person on their path can be draining. You may feel helpless, anxious, or overwhelmed. That’s understandable. In fact, you’re more effective at supporting others if you attend to your own mental health. 

Set boundaries when necessary. 

Invite therapy or support for yourself. 

Acknowledge small wins—yours and theirs.

You can’t pour from an empty cup, and nobody is expecting you to save the day. 

Final Thoughts

When a person chooses to reach out, it’s a moment of quiet strength. Your reaction at that moment can spread to the entire process of healing. Will they be able to go on? Or will they retreat back into silence?

You don’t have to have all the solutions. You just have to be present—with compassion, with humility, and with constancy.

Because healing doesn’t start in the therapist’s office.

It begins at home.

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The Weight of Silence: Men and Mental Health Today. 

For this Men’s Mental Health Month, we asked several men about the struggles they face. Let’s hear them out!

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“Men don’t cry.” “Be a man.” “You’re supposed to handle it.”

These phrases, often said lightly or passed down through carry a weight that men silently shoulder everyday. In our current generation, men face mounting pressures — from being expected to succeed early in life, to hiding emotional struggles behind a stoic front. While mental health is becoming a broader conversation, men’s mental health often remains buried under the expectation of silence.

To understand the reality behind these struggles, we spoke to men from different backgrounds and walks of life. Their experiences, perspectives, and honesty shed light upon the unspoken emotional burdens men face and why Men’s Mental Health Month deserves more attention than it gets.

The Pressure to Provide and Prove

A 25-year-old businessman captures the climate starkly:

“There’s immense pressure from society to secure a high-paying job at a young age. We’re expected to provide and judged by how much we earn, not by who we are”

In India, the competitive grind begins early, with exams like JEE and NEET shaping futures before adulthood even begins. For many young men, this pressure to achieve academic and financial success feels like a race they didn’t choose, but must win to gain societal approval. 

   Adding to that, there’s no space left to explore vulnerability. The same 25-year-old reflects, “Men’s emotions are ignored. We’re not seen as emotional beings, just providers.”

Unrealistic Success, Real Anxiety

Social media, while opening up the world, has also magnified insecurities. According to a 21-year-old law student, the constant exposure to curated “success stories” creates unrealistic expectations.

“It’s a transition period in our lives. We’re figuring ourselves out, taking up responsibilities and social media pressures just make it harder.”

Many men grapple with the fear of falling behind. The fear isn’t just professional, it’s personal too. Failing to meet societal expectations often becomes a quiet shame and without a space to talk, that shame continues to fester.

Work, Worth and the Struggle to Balance

For a 21-year-old engineering graduate, the workplace adds another layer of stress:

“There’s immense pressure to meet deadlines, keep your job, and also balance your personal life. On top of that, society expects you to live up to some ideal version of success”

The corporate world values output, not emotional well-being. Many men internalize this culture — they push harder, show up no matter how they feel and suppress emotional breakdowns in the name of professionalism. It becomes less about how they are and more about how they deliver.

Stoicism: The Inherited Mask

From a different generation, a 51-year-old businessman echoes the burden of silence:

“Men are expected to sacrifice. We can’t cry or show pain — we have to appear emotionless, especially in front of society.” 

This isn’t just a generational belief, it’s a legacy that many men inherit. Boys grow up hearing that vulnerability is a weakness. Over time, they start to believe it. But bottling up emotions isn’t strength — it’s a slow erosion of mental health. Emotional suppression has long been linked to increased rates of depression, anxiety and even suicide among men.

Bottled Emotions and the Burden to Provide

A 24-year-old Chartered Accountancy Finalist adds another dimension to this silent crisis.

“It’s difficult to express emotions when you’re feeling vulnerable. Since most men bottle up their feelings, it often leads to anger issues when that threshold is breached.”

He highlights how the rising cost of living places adds even more pressure on men to perform and provide. “Many end up turning to alcohol or tobacco just to cope with the pressure.”, he explains. But the real weight, he says, is the unsaid expectation of “being the strongest in the room even during the most difficult times.” This emotional strain often makes it difficult to process thoughts and feelings, and without an outlet, it builds into deeper issues.

Why Men’s Mental Health Month Matters 

Here’s the catch: some men didn’t even know Men’s Mental Health Month existed. That, in itself, is telling.

“I didn’t know such a month existed. That shows how neglected this issue is”, said the 25-year-old.

Others have mixed opinions. The law student expressed skepticism, believing awareness should be consistent year-round, not limited to one month.

“It’s the initiatives and conversations that matter, not the calendar month”

But there’s a common-thread where everyone agrees awareness is essential. For the 51-year-old, it’s about equality in understanding:

“You don’t need to be mentally ill to know about mental health. It’s as important as physical health. We need this awareness.”

Another man said it plainly:

“It helps men relieve their stress and focus on their mental health and physical health. It gives us space, finally.”

What Can We Do as a Society?

Men don’t need fixing. They need listening, understanding and space.

   Here’s how we can start making a difference:

Normalise Vulnerability 

Emotions are human, not gendered. Start early, especially with boys, to normalise crying, talking about feelings and expressing frustration or sadness.

Create Safe Spaces

Workplaces, schools, homes, all should be safe for emotional expression. Men should be able to express “I’m not okay” without judgement and stigma.

Break the ‘Provider’ Stereotype

Men are more than paychecks and promotions. Their worth doesn’t lie in income or status, and reminding them of this can ease a heavy burden.

Promote Year-Round Awareness 

While a dedicated month helps, let’s not stop or limit ourselves. Mental health conversations should continue throughout the year— in offices, friend circles and families, in the form of workshops or campaigns and many more types of awareness strategies. 

Address Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms 

With rising stress levels, many men turn to substances like alcohol or tobacco to cope. Instead, we need to promote healthier coping strategies and offer resources for substance free emotional support.

Encourage Professional Help

Therapy isn’t weakness, it’s self-care. Men should be encouraged to seek help, just like they would for physical illness.

In Conclusion: Let’s Talk, Really Talk

Men’s mental health is not a niche issue, it’s a widespread, often invisible struggle affecting millions. The pressure to succeed, to stay silent, to be strong all the time, it’s suffocating. 

   But change begins with acknowledgement. With awareness. With real conversations, like the ones these men were brave enough to have.

   So this Men’s Mental Health Month, and beyond, let’s do more than post hashtags. Let’s check in with our brothers, fathers, partners and friends. Let’s unlearn the silence. Let’s listen. And let’s remind men everywhere, they don’t have to carry the weight alone.

If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, reach out. Help is available. And healing is possible.

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